Do you remember the first time you learned to ride a bike? Like most of us this was likely a very frustrating experience. Especially at the point when you fell on the pavement and felt the literal pain of your mistake. While I’m unaware of the exact thought going through your mind at that very moment, it’s pretty safe to assume it was negative.
If you ultimately succeeded at riding your bike without falling again, it is also likely that positive thought was at the forefront of your success. That positive message may have come from a parent, guardian or friend of some sort, but what’s ultimately important is that it was there.
Had you not replaced your negative feelings of pain and defeat you may have never taken that next step to get back on your bike and ride again. Learning to ride a bike is not usually a two step process though. It usually takes several attempts and possible falls before failure gives way to success.
After Every Mistake, There’s Another Waiting In The Wings
Scratching is no different and thus you will have many upsets coming at you continually through the process of scratch improvement. Unlike when you learned to ride a bike, you won’t always have someone there to pick your ego off the floor and dust it off. You have to become self sufficient.
Even if you have a high quality scratch teacher that you regularly train with, they can’t always be there with you every step of the way. A truly good teacher will give you the tools to make regular leaps in progression without their constant presence. This leads to getting much bigger results during practice than you would otherwise.
Every Time Counts
Some common thoughts that typically occur during frustrating moments of scratch practice usually start off with, “I can’t”. The reality is your brain will believe whatever you tell it, especially if you habitually do so. The reverse is also true. If you regularly feed your brain with positive thought, it’ll believe that too.
If you’re accustomed to thinking in a negative manner when faced with challenges in your scratching, it may prove too difficult to avoid it. What I’m proposing is not to avoid it, but rather to face negative thought head on.
When dealing with negative thoughts, the goal is to replace those thoughts with its opposite. For example, “I can’t” becomes “I will”. Retraining your brain in this manner is a long term process and must be done each and every time negativity rears its ugly head.
Negative Thought Vs. Criticism
Although negative thought is indeed a form of criticism. It is a detrimental form of criticism. This doesn’t mean that you should abandon criticism or replace every form of criticism with something else. Criticism when done right is very constructive and fuels progress.
In fact constructive criticism is just another link in the chain of positive thought. Your goal is not to lie to yourself in order to feel good about your struggles. It is to acknowledge what needs improvement in your scratching and to have a strong sense of faith that you will overcome whatever problems you encounter.
Strength In Numbers
While regularly changing negative streams of thought to positives ones should be something you’re able to do on your own, we don’t live in a vacuum. Having friends, associates or a high quality scratch mentor who successfully does the same thing is very helpful.
Often times simply surrounding yourself with these types of people can greatly improve your outlook on things. Not to mention they can offer you their own take on how to stay positive that you might not have considered. Just like seeking out positive thoughts, you must also seek out positive people. If you do this, negativity doesn’t stand a chance.